this post was originally from 2012.
but since it’s that time of year again . . .
have washed its face and refreshed all the lost images
due to the recent hacker on my peanut here.
it’s a fun post.
and if you’re planning a big day or know of someone who is . . .
maybe you or they might enjoy these happy moments shared.
it’s coming onto that time of year.
the JUNE bride and all.
actually MY favorite time of year for a wedding
is in the autumn or winter.
i did a post on winter weddings once
which is now in the side bar in past posts.
many of you responded at that time with wonderful
memories of your own weddings.
such fun for all of us!
but here it is
the ‘traditional’ time that people usually plan for a wedding.
well. actually. if you have the ‘traditional american wedding’
you probably started planning a year ago.
and you’re supposedly ~ at least by all reports ~
either going to spend in one way or another
almost $28,400 or ( even more now in 2016! )
FOR A WEDDING????
yes. that’s what the reportedly ‘average cost’ of a wedding was in 2012.
i find that really hard to believe.
even HALF of that would be too much to my way of thinking!
or if you really want to think about it . . . a fraction of it!
and it CAN be done! and beautifully too.
you just have to think outside the wedding box!
REALLY ? ? ?
unless you’re a spoiled princess and your daddy can afford this
without dipping into his own retirement fund . . .
why on earth would you want your beloved parents
to pay for this kind of extravagance?
why would you yourselves go into debt?
or use up your savings?
there are many different venues now.
the setting doesn’t ALWAYS have to be
an expensive hotel grand assembly room.
even this might be too many!
a few of your closest friends and relatives perhaps.
later you might host a reception somewhere
for the TONS of people you’d like to be able to invite.
or . . .
maybe you’ll spend that money on a lovely trip
filled with great memories.
just keep it in savings for a cushion against emergencies! LOL.
your friends will all still be your friends.
and if they’re not. well maybe they weren’t in the first place.
think simple. think elegant. think spare rather than ‘over the top’
you will never EVER go wrong with
that last picture reminds me just a little bit
of a wedding i attended once in upstate new york.
years and years ago.
my mother was a close friend of the bride’s mother.
and i was home visiting my mother so i was invited as well.
the bride was a girl after my own heart.
she told her mother she wanted “elegant simplicity”
and that’s just what she had.
and it has stood out in my mind as one of the most beautiful
weddings i’ve ever attended.
she wore a simple lovely white dress.
she had a wreath of wild flowers in her hair. with tiny satin ribbons
flowing down the back. she wore her hair long. just like her groom liked it.
she looked fresh and romantic and absolutely beautiful.
the ceremony was held for only a group of their closest friends
in the back garden of her parents’ home.
everyone simply stood. the ceremony didn’t last long.
the groom wore jeans and a white dinner jacket!
and he looked young handsome and adorable.
semi~encircling where they stood to take their vows
were large clay pots filled with beautiful white begonias and ivy.
the mother would later replant those into her garden! genius!
they had cleared out and cleaned a very LARGE grey old shed
at the end of the garden lawn.
on one weathered wall of the shed and on the open door
were grapevine wreaths
and intertwined in the wreaths were little white flowers and greenery.
very fresh. very simple.
similar to the one pictured below . . .
actually i would choose snow white baby’s breath and green ivy
and let more of the wood of the wreath show through.
it’s all your personal choice!
the beauty of it and the fun.
courtesy of: hydrangea-hill-cottage.blogspot.com
set up in the shed was a table with a white floor length cloth.
i imagine now it very well might have been a white sheet.
a simple wedding cake baked by her mother.
champagne and fruit juice and coffee were served.
assorted tiny sandwiches which i remember as delicious.
there were mix~matched chairs of all kinds inside
and outside in the shade of the old shed.
more clay pots of the magical white flowers grouped about.
so beautiful! and simple.
on the three or so tables inside the shed
were strewn little tea lights in small glass mason jars.
and i remember that those tables had no covering.
just the old wood ~ the clay pot with white flowers blooming
and tiny white tea lights scattered on their marred wooden tops.
one table had a large tray of glasses and someone to pour champagne.
the other table had china cups ~ not matching ~ and someone served coffee.
rustic elegance at its best!
when you don’t have to feed hoards of people
you can splurge a bit on what you serve them.
or you can keep it simple and honest but still
her theme was all white with some greenery.
but yours could be a riot of beautiful and joyous color!
it takes so little.
the key is just to simply not OVER~DO.
don’t feel that every last little space has to be ‘ decorated ‘ somehow.
just do a lovely table.
there are now inexpensive sources.
and the little tea lights burn for hours.
and they don’t fill the room with overwhelming scents!
here are some lovely examples below of rather elegant tea lights.
but the shining little clear glass jars that held the tea lights
at the wedding i attended that magical day so long ago . . .
were simple and dear.
she had asked two friends of hers from the university to play
the violin and the harp.
they sat outside near a huge tree. playing softly. just enough.
they had also played at the ceremony as the bride briefly entered
on the arm of her dad.
the last i heard ~ well ~ a number of years later anyway ~
this young couple was doing well.
they still were very much in love and had a fine family.
i suppose their family would be grown by now ! ! !
that’s how fast time goes by.
but i shall never forget that little wedding.
to me it was the epitome of what a REAL wedding day should be.
no angst over all the tedious
ridiculously pretentious details that
the ‘ wedding planner ‘ tries to convince you are so important.
what is important will be the memories you take from this day.
you can look back upon a relaxed and happy and beautiful occasion.
or you can look at pictures of it and think
OMG. i can’t believe we blew $10,000
or $28,000 or MORE! on THAT!!!
in real life . . . not the fairy tale dreams of little girls . . .
ostentation in all forms usually turns out to be a disappointment.
here are some pictures i’ve gleaned from the big world wide web
which might inspire you if you’re planning the big event.
or if you have someone close to you that is . . .
maybe they will spark an ‘alternative’ thought as to what you could do.
just bear in mind. tradition can still be had
the huge white ‘ meringue ‘ dress
the trailing veil!
the huge professionally made bouquet
the over decorated and fake looking $1200 ~ $2000 cake.
the silly “must have” list goes on and on and on.
making other people rich at your expense.
the money eating machine known as “the big formal wedding.”
opt instead for
rather than nerves
you will have a much happier groom! LOL.
and it just might save your
soon to be marriage!
who said you have to have a veil?
a simple wedding held in a small city park
not a ‘ meringue ‘ in sight!
think audrey hepburn!
and she carried these.
as fresh and beautiful and ‘ real ‘ as his bride.
and she carried these
exuberant with color!
he knew he liked this girl!
but he didn’t know how much he LOVED her until
she created a
spectacular little wedding for a small amount of money
with only her imagination
and her taste
and simple elegance
what a lucky guy!
she used her grandmother’s china teapot for the centerpiece.
good memories. made even sweeter.
over the top
i tell you what.
unless you’re a millionaire.
why would you even want to spend the money
to invite a ton of people to one of the most
intimate events in your life?
actually. i don’t know why i even said that.
because if i were that rich
it would change nothing about the way
i think about life and what’s important.
if you would like to know when i think the ideal wedding
even is . . .
go to the side bar and click on
‘ a winter wedding ‘ !!!
i will re~do the lost pictures there too someday.
maybe in the autumn!
because if you keep your wedding small and intimate
you don’t have to have a year or 6 months of
and weddings held in the less traditional time of year
if you’re bound to want yours in the traditional
month of JUNE
well . . .
i hope this little post has been fun.
and if you haven’t already invested those THOUSANDS of dollars
i also hope it gives you some great ideas
how to have a
and the most important of all
wedding next month or this summer.
because . . . it should be fun!
when you don’t go overboard
it doesn’t take so long to plan it.
til soon old ‘ MRS ‘ bean!