some thoughts for you
if you are . . .
on the outside looking in.
it’s almost christmas.
short enough now to count by the days.
blogland is chock full . . . nigh onto bursting with the beauties
and the cheer and the joy and the busyness
of this holiday.
but what about YOU ?
what is your holiday time like ?
are you on the outside
looking in ?
i usually am.
it’s okay you know to admit it.
it’s not about self pity old bean.
so you can relax. you’re among friends here at the peanut!
it just is what it is.
maybe you have no family.
maybe you have few friends. and even they are far away.
maybe you don’t mind being alone. but being alone
when everybody else is at the table . . .
well . . .
sometimes it hits you. you know. what you don’t have.
and that maybe you’re missing out.
the beauty of the holiday is everywhere to be seen!
i happen to enjoy it very much. it’s a good thing i do.
because it is hard to escape it!
if you can old bean ~ try to make your peace with it.
there’s no use fighting all the lights and the trees and the ornaments!
see this guy below ?
is this you at christmas?
i’m here to tell you . . .
LOLOL!!! and what else pray tell is new ? LOLOL!!!
you don’t have to have a blue blue christmas old bean.
no matter what the song says.
as a matter of fact . . .
that’s number one in the christmas arsenal of survival
for those people who find themselves
‘ looking in. ‘
DO NOT listen to songs like
‘ i’ll have a blue christmas without you ‘
‘ i’ll be home for christmas ‘
‘ have yourself a merry little christmas ‘
‘ i’m dreaming of a white christmas ‘
they are all just too wonderful for words.
they are also land mines of the spirit if you’re having a hard time.
missing her. missing him. missing them.
just let them go this year. maybe next year you can take it.
i’ve been pretty much alone now for the last 34 years.
and i’ve quite gotten used to it!
no parents. lost them really early.
no husband. he died too.
other family gone years ago.
only one brother. the marine.
and he was always busy with his own family up until two years ago.
not a litany of self pitying horror here old bean.
just simple facts.
the thing is . . . after awhile you do get the hang of it.
you can be alone and still enjoy the holidays.
you can !!!
as a matter of fact . . .
and one that most people will NEVER understand . . .
i even now prefer it.
you can be lonelier in a crowd than you ever are alone.
i have lots of my own little traditions.
because i have a great love and need for beauty in my life . . .
i always put up a small tree. and i love the lights!
i don’t however have any ornaments that open wounds.
i still can’t manage that one. it would just be too hard.
but hey. that leaves lots of beautiful treasures only you can enjoy!
unlike me . . . seeing ornaments that bring all kinds of memories
might be just the thing for you.
whatever works for you. personally.
i like just the pure white tiny lights on my little tree. very little else needed.
OR . . .
no tree? wouldn’t have one? no problem.
it’s YOUR life. that’s one of the beauties in being alone! LOL.
if your idea of heaven is a cosy chair and a lamp and a book
or for anytime of year for that matter . . .
that’s a beautiful thing right there!
as beautiful as any christmas tree!
and who’s to say there has to be christmas colors?
if the colors of spring are what make you happy . . .
then surround yourself with that. it’s your own life.
and it can be lovely.
i have found what works for me.
i enjoy many of the traditional things of the holidays.
but some of the more gut~wrenching loss~reminders . . .
i stay clear of. like the sentimental ornaments.
you will know what you can and can’t do.
but one fun thing i do enjoy . . .
i love to watch the corny old christmas movie classics!
you can find them at your library or movie rental places.
i own most of mine!
and this time of year they’re always on tv too.
and i even love to watch the NEW corny christmas movies! LOLOL.
yes. sometimes my taste is all in my mouth. LOL.
speaking of . . .
get you some pop corn and dive in.
LIFE IS JUST BETTER WITH POPCORN !!!
I love those words !!!
they’re so true.
this post is not for the readers who are now such good friends . . .
the ones of you who leave wonderful comments each time.
just from reading your comments i see that you all have families
and happy busy lives!
but the captain sends my stats to me near the end of each month.
you know . . . telling the number of people who read this pontification peanut.
since January 2013 until now i’ve had
86, 752 visitors for the year 2013.
this month i have had 5, 149 so far and counting . . .
i’m thinking out of that many people . . .
there are some of you old bean . . . maybe even many of you
who have nobody.
who will be spending christmas alone.
who maybe even have come to hate the holidays
and wish it would all just GO AWAY !!!
that’s okay. you won’t be accused of being scrooge here!
and i even have an idea or two that might help!
well now . . . where did you think this was leading? really ?
i say . . .
forget about eating all the holiday food !!!
instead try something totally ‘untraditional’ for christmas.
treat yourself to THIS !!!
and include a fresh salad!
and if you don’t want to eat all this goodness in front of
an old christmas movie classic . . .
try watching this gentleman instead . . .
dame agatha christie’s ‘ POIROT! ‘
i just love this little belgian. he is NOT FRENCH. he will tell you that.
he is the greatest detective in the whole world.
he will tell you that too! LOLOL.
he is the beloved hercule poirot.
played by the one and only
such elegance! such joi de vivre!
and he’s alone too !
and he QUITE prefers it that way.
thank you very much !
only he’s going to be solving
a cosy intricate english murder mystery!!!
you can watch him free on the internet.
poirot on youtube!
or no doubt your library has dvd’s of him to borrow.
the only thing better to me would be spending time in
london itself! my favorite city.
this is the time of year when something as simple as
can lift your mood.
and it doesn’t have to be expensive.
a vivid punch of a single vibrant color can make all the difference!
never underestimate it.
and you don’t have to re paint your kitchen as below !
even just a throw pillow or two in an exciting new color
would be great for lifting the mood!
nary a sign of christmas in sight! LOLOL.
the colors of citrus fruits and tropical flowers in the sun!
do what works for you. it’s your mood. your life!
a jane coslick designed cottage at tybee island
her cottages are a riot of happiness in color.
you can see the simple magic she makes.
her blog is in my side bar of friends. definitely unusual and worth checking out!
and always . . . a little christmas gift to give yourself . . .
a luxurious winter nap!
it’s the little pleasures in this life we must keep.
most especially during the holidays. it makes up for whatever is missing.
and while we’re doing that . . .
it’s not a bad thing to remember those who also feel or really are alone
and miles and miles from home . . .
in not the best conditions . . .
that pretty much puts it into perspective.
well. old bean.
another post with WAYYY too many words to say one simple thing . . .
‘ it’s not really so bad to be alone at christmas ! ‘
or ANY time for that matter !
you’re certainly not the only one! and yet i know it may feel that way.
i’m usually alone myself. and will probably be again this christmas.
and if all else fails . . . to help you through it if you’re having a rough time . . .
you can fall back on the usual thing that really is truly true !
IT IS ‘ just another day ‘ on the calendar. and it will pass!
and soon . . . it will be . . .
HOW BEAUTIFUL is that !!!! a brand new year !!!! YAYYYY !!!!
this year i may get to go and see the marine’s family before christmas!
only for 4 days. and we’d be back before christmas itself.
but what an unexpected treat! to be invited! so lovely!
i’ll write about it here in a few days in more detail.
i’m still trying to decide if i’m up to the trip. the bum leg and all.
don’t want to be a drag on everybody’s festivities! i just have to see how i feel too.
the thing is . . . sometimes it happens. simply like that.
you just never know when something wonderful will happen to you!!!
stay open to all the possibilities.
but remember THIS . . .
you can make your very own holiday or NON~HOLIDAY too!
come back on christmas eve if you find yourself alone.
snoopy and woodstock and me. and the little ghost of my zeke.
we’ll be here.
we’ll keep the light on for ya!
til soon old bean.