i was always different.
not in all ways. but in some. i just didn’t want the same things they did.
yes. the prince charming part of course! but . . . i also wanted to
be a ballerina! LOL.
my friends all dreamed about being a june bride with huge weddings . . .
they would picture themselves in white dresses with handsome grooms.
and they all wanted
“a huge white wedding!”
i never pictured that “huge” for myself. i always liked ‘small and cozy.’
i was simple even then. i wanted a totally ~ totally ~ different wedding.
but when you spoke about your own dreams ~ they never said ~
“oh! how wonderfully creative and original you are!”
they said “you’re too weird tammy!” LOLOLOL. and then much laughter.
i laughed too. but secretly . . .
secretly . . . i knew i wasn’t weird at all.
here’s what i somehow knew to be true then. and even more true now. . .
the simple things in life are the best. they really truly are!
it’s just that the rest of the world tries to convince you otherwise.
it’s a hard battle to learn if you’re not luckily inclined to know it already.
i always wanted a winter wedding.
to me there is nothing more romantic than snow and tiny white lights.
you can have your hot june nights or afternoons with the flies and the heat
and the sweating and the pitiful pastels! LOL.
give me . . .
the glow of light from tiny tea candles and the richness of wine reds and
deep forest greens and clear sapphire blues. the richness of camelot.
simple outdoor gleanings for your centerpieces.
pine and berries and the tea lights i love so much.
i even saw recently where the tea light can be put into a wine glass
with a little parchment shade over the glass. careful though to be sure
they are fire proof! don’t want the wedding party to end up at the fire
these are lovely.
the secret to my simple wedding is just that.
it would be kept simple. there will still be expense if you go this way.
but not as expensive as the over-the-top extravaganzas that are so popular
today. and to go into debt or put your parents into great debt for a wedding ~ well ~
there is something wrong somehow in spending thousands upon thousands
of dollars on a simple ceremony that will last only a short while ~
on marriages that usually last even shorter! how sad is that? on every level.
no. if you’re a smart young couple ~ and you realize that the money and
stress you put into a huge fancy wedding will strain not only your wallets
but your relationship as well ~ and if you don’t want to start out in debt ~
well . . . good for you! you’re on your way to having a wonderful life!!!
here are some beautiful images and ideas for
a ~ lovely ~ simple ~ winter ~ wedding.
the stuff of my dreams as a little girl! and perhaps your own dreams too!
a simple beautiful cake with a few fresh flowers on top in whatever color
you choose. this is for your cutting. one layer. no cardboard. no intricate
stands that you have to be nervous of. simply a cake. that’s enough.
then if you have more guests you could have a sheet cake already cut into
serving pieces. simple. elegant. efficient! some wedding cakes today
cost over 1500. 00. that is ludicrous. the antipathy of small elegance.
a small intimate christmas wedding just for immediate family and a few
special friends. this bride chose well. individual tiny cakes for each person.
another christmas wedding idea.
this is a beautiful cake. more traditionally tiered. but look at the pine cone
with greenery and simple ribbon atop the cake. exquisite! and tiny white
lights only on a green tree as decor. it doesn’t get much more elegant and
lovely as this. and i would use an ivory colored cloth. with my favorite
glowing tea lights in simple glass holders scattered around the table.
enchanting. simple. understated. taste.
one with colored lights on the tree.
if i were having a wedding reception i would try to find a small cozy room.
even if it were in a favorite restaurant. the secret is to keep the rest of the
you don’t need a wedding planner and caterer and huge meal.
keep the food simple too.
i love the idea of elegance mixed with rustic.
a hearty and filling vegetable soup (i’m vegetarian after all) but you
could have stew. and delicious little corn muffins or assorted breads.
all served in simple white china. nothing over-the-top.
white cloths with a red tartan runner down the table.
small tea lights. green pine. beautiful jewel blue ribbon.
there you have it. wholesome. relaxing. throw-away elegance i call it!
like you’re not trying ‘too hard’ and you’re not! you’re actually enjoying
this day. or evening or late afternoon. perfectly simple and enough.
which means . . . just right.
there is no law that says you must do your wedding a certain way.
be brave and original and think creatively. do it your own way with your
own personal touches. it will mean more to you. and to your guests.
and . . . since the average groom HATES all the fuss and pomp and ‘stuff’
that occupies his bride for weeks and sometimes months on end . . .
well . . . you will gain many many points in advance if you keep it simple
and painless in that department! LOL.
never underestimate the beauty of nature.
bare branches are forever dramatic and beautiful.
i once decorated a table with white branches in large glass vases and
nothing else but ivory candles on the table. they were wonderful. and
somehow magical. like a winter forest. the tables were round. lovely!
or . . .
just . . .
how beautifully simple is this.
the cake needs nothing more.
it’s the star of the table.
most people ‘do TOO much’.
it’s just not necessary.
an impeccable white cloth.
a simple lovely cake.
just for the bride and groom.
for the other guests . . .
perhaps little cupcakes or iced delicious cookies and rich chocolate brownies!
the men will love you.
and your groom will be so proud.
and then . . .
there’s the bride herself.
while we’re talking simplicity . . .
who says you have to carry a huge expensive bouquet down the aisle?
just a spray of your favorite flower would be simply divine.
very audrey hepburnish if i do say so! can’t get much more elegant than
audrey. a beautiful lady. inside and out.
which brings me to the most important of all . . .
sadly enough . . . this couple has a better chance of forever after happily
wedded bliss than the average wedding couple of today.
don’t let that happen to you.
everybody goes into the wedding with starry eyes and romantic thoughts ~
well. in the aftermath ~ life happens.
it gets messy. it gets sad. it gets downright hard.
as long as you think of yourself as ‘yourselves’ you’ll make it.
i was a ’til death us do part’ kind of gal. we were a team.
i didn’t have anything like the wedding i wrote about above.
i stood up with my bob in the front of a tiny methodist church on
a cold winter day. december 7th as a matter of fact. pearl harbor day!
but the wedding ‘took’. it took real good. we met every challenge that
came our way. together. and we won them all. except the last one called
so it matters not what kind of wedding you have. what matters is how you
love and live with each other afterward. i wish for you . . .
a beautiful ~ simple ~ down to earth ~ wedding. and a heavenly life!